Rudeness is a bad trait in a character. We should
not display rudeness in our everyday life. By being rude we are likely to lose
much and gain nothing in terms of friendship, goodwill and even material
rewards. It places our character and personality in a very bad light. Very few
of us think seriously of the adverse effects of being rude. Sometimes quite
deliberately, and at other times unconsciously, we tend to become rude in our
everyday life.
On many occasions, by behaving or talking rudely,
we create a bad impression in the minds of others.
Rudeness takes different forms. One famous writer
said that man’s worst enemy is his tongue. Think of the innumerable occasions
when, through an unguarded remark or unpleasant word, we have soured our
relationship with others. What an ill-feeling it has created in others Rudeness
is traced in sarcasm, in coarse and vulgar language that embarrasses other
people. We can be rude through our speech.
A rightly-merited reprimand administered in a
hectoring tone could be termed rudeness. The tone of our voice could be rude.
The same reprimand expressed in a modulated voice might not irritate or offend
the hearer. Boisterous behavior, talking and laughing loudly while in a crowd
or group reveals lack of cultured upbringing.
Speaking of behavior, some people are in the habit
of patting others violently on the back or shaking the hands of others with a
display of finger strength. This is another instance of rudeness.
It is wrong to assume that as boisterous behavior
is rudeness. It is advisable to be silent. Misplaced silence borders on
rudeness too. If you persistently avoid, ignore and refuse to talk to a
familiar person, it could be termed rudeness. To receive a friendly letter and
not to acknowledge it is another instance of rudeness.
Have we not come across people who monopolize the
conversation in groups, or social gatherings? This type of person very seldom
gives a chance to others to speak. Unless, they are gifted with wit and a
humorous repertoire, their talk could be embarrassingly boring. It is rudeness
to bore people with your uninteresting conversation. A good conversationalist
should also be a good listener.
There are some people who, after rendering some
form of service or help to needy persons, go on parading this in public. This
is not a civilized attitude. Much of the value of the help we have rendered to
others will be lost if we begin to publicize such acts. An assistance given
should be forgotten by the giver, though, of course, not by the receiver.
If we could make a list of all forms of rudeness,
it would form an impressive array. The simple lesson we forget is-that through
each and every one of these acts of rudeness, we are we should not be rude. Generating
ill-will and bad impressions. All around us besides creating a large number of
enemies. We turn out to be contemptible persons abhorred by our enemies and
avoided by our friends and relations. To ensure a happy and successful life it
is imperative that we should not be rude.