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Selfishness

OUTLINE
  1. Introduction.
  2. Historical instances.
  3. Selfish persons deprive themselves of a great deal of happiness.
  4. No enjoyment for the selfish person.
  5. Conclusion.

Selfishness

The thoroughly selfish man aims at obtaining as much happiness as he can for himself and does not care whether other people are happy or miserable. In order to attain this object, he tries to appropriate as large a share as possible of the good things of this world. Whenever he has an opportunity of doing so he enjoys himself. Even when his enjoyment is obtained at the expense of his fellow-men

History gives many conspicuous instances of selfishness in the case of despotic monarchs taught by their flatterers to think that they hand nothing else to do in the world but seek the gratification of their appetites. Thus we find among the Roman emperor men who valued their immense power chiefly because it gave them the command of all the sensual pleasures that the countries of the known world could supply. In modern history Henry VIII and Charles II, distinguished themselves above all the other monarchs of England by their absorption in their own pleasures, and their utter disregard of the good of their subjects.

Such selfishness is not confined to kings and emperors, but is to be found in every rank Of society. All over the world we find the selfish taking an unfair share of everything, and trying their best to use others as means to the attainment of their pleasure. They seem to be quite blind to the fact that by their course of life they must infallibly sacrifice their general happiness for the sake of a limited number of not very valuable pleasures. It is quite possible that a selfish man may be cunning or determination induces his friends and relations to sacrifice their interests to his. It sometimes happens that there is in a family a notoriously selfish person, who makes himself or herself intensely disagreeable if crossed in any way. Such disagreeable persons often get their own desires gratified at the expense of the more amiable members of the family, who are known to be unselfish and not expected to resent any wrong done to them. But in the long-run they defeat their own object, and find that by exclusive attention to their own happiness they have deprived themselves of the highest and most permanent sources of happiness.

Human beings are so constituted by nature that they cannot enjoy happiness worthy of the name without being in sympathy with their fellow-men. Therefore the best way to be happy is to make other happy. What Shakespeare says of mercy is equally true of other forms of benevolence. Every kind act is twice blessed, and blesses alike him that gives and him that takes. Of the first and more important part of this double blessing the selfish man is entirely deprived by his ruling passion. He is also in many cases deprived of the lesser blessing of receiving kindness and assistance from his fellow-men. As shown above, he many occasionally gain advantages from those who cannot avoid coming into contact with him and fear to provoke his resentment. But such advantages being conferred without goodwill. add little to his happiness, and all, who can do so. Will be inclined to avoid his society. And will prefer to shown kindness to others. Who being sympathetic and benevolent themselves seems to deserve kindness in return.